I’ve been with my bf for 3-1/2 years. We live separately at this point, but are planning to move together later this year b/c his job is moving him out of the city and I’m moving with him. We will be renting at first. Supposedly, he is saving $ to buy a house down the line. He used to own a lot, but sold it as a short sale last year because of the economy, etc. He has a second vacation home about two hours away on the beach that he rents out to tenants. His father took out a second mortgage to that home to buy a lot at a nice area and build a bigger house between his father, his brother, and himself. Mind you, the house that is being rented was already completely paid for. He now tells me that they are going to go ahead and start building the home on the lot. I’m upset b/c now I know it is going to prolong us buying our own home (even though he said that isn’t going to stop his saving for our home). To me, it’s not the norm to even have a second home (they aren’t rich), but it’s even more abnormal to spend $ and time building a vacation home when you don’t even have a first home (he still lives at home, mind you!). He says it has always been his dream to have a home in that area. Well, they already had a home and decided to take out a second mortgage to build a bigger one (sounds greedy to me). He even told me that if for some reason he wouldn’t be able to build that home and lost the lot, he would be relieved. So, who is he spending this money and building this house for?!